parenting

Encoding my rules so I can hold myself accountable.

• No physical domination: Don't hit, don't grab, don't force. It creates vicious negative feedback and trauma.
• No yelling: Yelling and being firm are not the same. Catch yourself yelling and stop.
• No controlling: Let them learn the real consequences instead of creating artificial ones.
• Positive suggestion: Tell them what can be done rather than what can't.
• Right speech: The parent is the example. Speak eloquently, kindly, and truthfully.
• NVC: observe behavior, identify feelings, identify needs, make a request.
• Circle of the way: listen and practice realization (zen)